No, we can’t control some of our thoughts, memories and feelings that at times just come up. BUT, we can control how long we choose to camp out with them.
No, we can’t control the words and actions of others. BUT, we can control how we react to them.
No, we can’t always agree with others. BUT, we can always say I hear you and agree to disagree.
For every no we can’t there will always be a BUT yes we can. That’s life!